sigh
I have a friend from college with whom I basically exchange birthday greetings on facebook and that's all. It's a little more than a happy birthday on each other's walls, we do message each other and say, 'hey, what's new with you'. It's nice and fine and whatever, but of course, after I say, 'not much, life's good, I just went to Chicago' or whatever, there's always a 'what else is new with you?'
She's not the only friend who does this. Lots of people do. Can I just ask you, married people, to not do this to single people? Whether it's what you're saying or not, what I'm hearing (and probably what other single people are hearing) is, 'oh, that's nice. any luck on the romance front? [wasn't I so polite to not ask that first or straight out? that shows that I care about you, not just your relationship status, though really I just want to know your relationship status.]'
Please, just please don't do this.
She's not the only friend who does this. Lots of people do. Can I just ask you, married people, to not do this to single people? Whether it's what you're saying or not, what I'm hearing (and probably what other single people are hearing) is, 'oh, that's nice. any luck on the romance front? [wasn't I so polite to not ask that first or straight out? that shows that I care about you, not just your relationship status, though really I just want to know your relationship status.]'
Please, just please don't do this.
posted by melilotnfosco | 10:33 PM
6 Comments:
Yes, agree! I didn't think that's where this was going and didn't even think of it, but maybe that's just because it doesn't happen a lot on Facebook for me (except with my ex-temp-roommate, although she's been mostly quiet for a while since I never really give her anything ;) ). I do feel like it happens in person though, and I always feel like that is what they're getting at and I just have to disappoint them again.
Only, the people reading this probably don't do that. ;)
true. but i had to get it off my chest. ;)
I understand. That's what blogs are for, right?
yep :)
I didn't think that's where that was going either, and I didn't think that when I was single when people asked me. I thought it meant, how's your family, work/life balance, new hobbies, travel, etc. Like a non-specific "tell me more to keep this conversation going". If I ever do ask "so what else is new", that's what I'm getting at, anyway. But you know I tend to be blunt and straightforward - If I wanted to know about your relationship status, I'd probably ask straight out. :)
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