Thought I had the other day but never got around to posting
I am proud to say I like Boromir better than Aragorn. I am proud to say I like the 9th Doctor better than the 10th. And yet I fully acknowledge that the others are more popular and feel no shame in admitting that both Aragorn and the 10th Doctor make more sense, that I can see why women generally prefer them, and that, in the case of David Tennant, I'd even go so far as to say he's the better Doctor.
I proudly declare my preference for Boromir and Nine, but if I'm arguing with someone about who's better and we get down to it, I always say that I must be broken, that I seem to have something wrong with me. I always choose the man who's a little broken. Part of it is that I know that I have issues and don't want anyone who's too perfect, because that would be intimidating. Aragorn in the book is less troubled that he is in the movies. How on earth could I handle being with someone that good, knowing I am what I am.
And then the other day I was thinking about it even more, thinking that that's not quite it. That's not quite the appeal of Boromir and Nine. So I puzzled and puzzled 'til my puzzler was sore, and I came up with this. Perhaps the appeal for me is that they need me. Not to fix them or change them, but to silently be there for them. To know when to listen and not respond, to not bother them about their feelings, but to let them be who they are. To fight them if needed, but in a way that doesn't devalue who they are at the moment.
But then what does that say about me always saying I must be broken to prefer those two to their more popular counterparts. One, I relate to them better. They're not gushy and never would be. I would rather have someone who would silently stand by me. Also, I think in some ways I am more trusting of a man who needs me (not in a needy way - that would be annoying and I would have no respect for him), than a man who would say he loved me. I often in my head ask myself what I would say if a man said, 'I love you' to me. The answer is usually something along the lines of, 'Why on earth would you do that?' These men wouldn't be the 'I love you' type, and yet in some ways, I believe, feel more deeply. That's more me, that's something I understand better.
Those are just thoughts. They may or may not be accurate and probably aren't complete. Someday I'll figure me out.
I proudly declare my preference for Boromir and Nine, but if I'm arguing with someone about who's better and we get down to it, I always say that I must be broken, that I seem to have something wrong with me. I always choose the man who's a little broken. Part of it is that I know that I have issues and don't want anyone who's too perfect, because that would be intimidating. Aragorn in the book is less troubled that he is in the movies. How on earth could I handle being with someone that good, knowing I am what I am.
And then the other day I was thinking about it even more, thinking that that's not quite it. That's not quite the appeal of Boromir and Nine. So I puzzled and puzzled 'til my puzzler was sore, and I came up with this. Perhaps the appeal for me is that they need me. Not to fix them or change them, but to silently be there for them. To know when to listen and not respond, to not bother them about their feelings, but to let them be who they are. To fight them if needed, but in a way that doesn't devalue who they are at the moment.
But then what does that say about me always saying I must be broken to prefer those two to their more popular counterparts. One, I relate to them better. They're not gushy and never would be. I would rather have someone who would silently stand by me. Also, I think in some ways I am more trusting of a man who needs me (not in a needy way - that would be annoying and I would have no respect for him), than a man who would say he loved me. I often in my head ask myself what I would say if a man said, 'I love you' to me. The answer is usually something along the lines of, 'Why on earth would you do that?' These men wouldn't be the 'I love you' type, and yet in some ways, I believe, feel more deeply. That's more me, that's something I understand better.
Those are just thoughts. They may or may not be accurate and probably aren't complete. Someday I'll figure me out.
posted by melilotnfosco | 1:48 PM
8 Comments:
I believe that's true about you, that you would be able to offer those things you said. And I understand. It makes me think of a line in one of the Anne of Green Gables books, where one of her friends says she likes cats (better than dogs) because they're just so human. :)
But honestly, I feel like many people like Aragorn and the Tenth Doctor better simply because of their looks. They're more traditionally good-looking, I think. Well, I don't know about David Tennant; maybe just more charming in that case. :)
Thank you. :)
And yes, but then why don't I go for them, too? This is me after all. ;)
Well, you still like them, don't you? But you're loyal to your more troubled guys, as you say. You're loyal and don't care about what the majority say. :) Except you love Sherlock/Benedict like everyone else. ;) Like you said, you're still figuring this out. :)
yes, that is all true. :)
but i don't think i'll ever figure out the sherlock/benedict thing. ;)
I mean, Sherlock is obviously broken. And Benedict has trouble saying "penguins" correctly, so one could argue he is too.
lol :D
Another aspect that might affect your interest is that neither of these men had as much air time as Aragorn and Tenant. So they maintain a bit of mystery to them. That may be why you sense they are deeper in thoughts and feelings than they appear. And you would totally be the Rose to your 9th :-)
that's a fair point
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