this makes me sad
someone just posted this on fb:
http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/10-Things-to-do-Before-You-Have-Kids.aspx?utm_source=JesusChristPageDesktopBeforeKidsPromoJune&utm_medium=paid_distribution&utm_campaign=GlobalScope
now, on a secular website, sure, there are some fun ideas, and no, i don't believe that Christians can't write articles about ways to have fun. but if you're talking to Christian newlyweds and telling them things they should do before they have kids, why is there nothing in this list about establishing a devotional time together? why is there nothing about praying together? why is there nothing about finding a time and place to serve others? in addition to the fun things the list has 'save money' and 'find your dream job.' and yet there was no room on this list for things of the Kingdom. instead, you should 'spend a good chunk of change on yourself.' it makes me sad.
http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/10-Things-to-do-Before-You-Have-Kids.aspx?utm_source=JesusChristPageDesktopBeforeKidsPromoJune&utm_medium=paid_distribution&utm_campaign=GlobalScope
now, on a secular website, sure, there are some fun ideas, and no, i don't believe that Christians can't write articles about ways to have fun. but if you're talking to Christian newlyweds and telling them things they should do before they have kids, why is there nothing in this list about establishing a devotional time together? why is there nothing about praying together? why is there nothing about finding a time and place to serve others? in addition to the fun things the list has 'save money' and 'find your dream job.' and yet there was no room on this list for things of the Kingdom. instead, you should 'spend a good chunk of change on yourself.' it makes me sad.
posted by melilotnfosco | 11:45 PM
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oh my goodness what a load of ____! I completely agree with you. And might I add, she sounds like she's got a very stereotyped view of motherhood, that her life will be over after baby. It's the same as when people assume your life is over after marriage so do these 10 things while you still can before the ball and chain. Life changes; it's not over. You learn to love and enjoy different things than you did before, and it is NOT a bad thing. Besides, she suggested things that extroverted people in their early 20's do, like going to concerts and staying out all night. And seriously? splurge on a $200 pair of jeans?!?!?! NO THANKS to any of that!
And you're right about spiritual growth and looking outward from selfish pursuits. Prebaby should be a time to develop devotional habits together that you can model for the child. Well, Dan thought the article was so silly it must have been written as a joke. We could give her the benefit of the doubt.
Honestly, the only thing to do before having kids is enjoy the ability to have a house stay clean for 2 minutes. Other than that, everything else can happen with kids!
And yes, in a Christian article, I'm disappointed that it is so secular sounding!
i'm glad to see that most of the people who commented on the article were irritated by it, too
I agree with all of this plus all the comments. My only hope for her is that she assumes Christian couples will already be serving others and praying and having a devotional life???? But yes, all of these are very self-serving...
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