learning to figure myself out
once in awhile nowadays i can figure out the root of the problem. sometimes there are a few things, but there usually seems to be something totally unrelated.
jeanie asked me to come over two nights a week while she's gone for a month and just sleep in the room with her dogs (they know they're not allowed on the bed). her roommate will do all the feeding and whatnot, it's just that the roommate works nights, and if the dogs are left home alone at night they get into trouble.
problem 1 was easy to figure out: i hate dogs.
problem 2 took a little longer: i hate being committed to things.mostly because it means i'm committed away from other things. what if something comes up and i actually (ha!) get a chance to get out of here for awhile. i'd be stuck because of those stupid dogs. and it's for 4 weeks. who knows what i could do for actual fun in that time?
and problem 3 - probably deep down the biggest thing: i hate that i'd be stuck here with dogs that i hate, when she'll be out actually living life. i'm jealous that she'll be out traveling and having fun, while i'm stuck here simply existing, doing the same old nothing. but with dogs.
i'm not looking for you to say, 'so go out and do something already!' i'm just, idunno, not really venting, just saying, i guess.
jeanie asked me to come over two nights a week while she's gone for a month and just sleep in the room with her dogs (they know they're not allowed on the bed). her roommate will do all the feeding and whatnot, it's just that the roommate works nights, and if the dogs are left home alone at night they get into trouble.
problem 1 was easy to figure out: i hate dogs.
problem 2 took a little longer: i hate being committed to things.mostly because it means i'm committed away from other things. what if something comes up and i actually (ha!) get a chance to get out of here for awhile. i'd be stuck because of those stupid dogs. and it's for 4 weeks. who knows what i could do for actual fun in that time?
and problem 3 - probably deep down the biggest thing: i hate that i'd be stuck here with dogs that i hate, when she'll be out actually living life. i'm jealous that she'll be out traveling and having fun, while i'm stuck here simply existing, doing the same old nothing. but with dogs.
i'm not looking for you to say, 'so go out and do something already!' i'm just, idunno, not really venting, just saying, i guess.
posted by melilotnfosco | 9:12 PM
13 Comments:
Why can't her roommate sleep in the room?
Did you tell her no then?
her roommate works 10:30pm-7:30am, so jeanie needs someone there when she's gone.
of course i didn't tell her no. my family doesn't do that. the conversation went like this: "i don't know how you feel about dogs..." "i hate dogs." "well, you wouldn't have to do anything with them..." it ended with me saying that that's the time of year when my teacher friends are finally not busy, so i may get a chance to actually do something so i don't want to commit, and, um... (quick, mel, think of something) finally, "if you need me i will. if you can find someone else that would be better. work on that, and then get back to me."
which i'm pretty sure means i'll be stuck with it.
i wish dog people would understand that people who are not dog people really truly are not dog people.
I'd be intimidated by that and wouldn't want to do it either (like you said -- commitment). I feel guilty because every time my SIL asks me to do something, I hesitate. *Sigh.*
Maybe she will find somebody else. I think it's good that you said you were willing and you were up front about wanting it to be somebody else instead (or for part of the time maybe). I'm sure it'll all work out, God's got your back (like in the last post). But yeah, I'd be reluctant too. And probably grumpy and whiny. ;)
i just emailed her telling her again that i don't want to do it, but will if she needs me, but that i won't do more than one or two weeks.
i'm pretty proud of me
yeah that line "i hate dogs" means not wanting to be around them at all, not just not having to feed them or play with them! and can i just say that's the weirdest request i've ever heard LOL!!!
What about CLOSING THE BEDROOM DOOR? or putting up a mannequin or piling laundry or something on the bed... i don't know, i guess i don't get it bc i'm not a dog owner.
What??!! That's so weird! Your presence will keep them from trouble? Or does she want you up all night with them? That's why God invented kennels people!
Good for you to tell her no. Even if she can't find someone else to do it, I would say no. (and I'm a dog person!)
apparently just having someone there will make them behave. personally i also don't see why they can't be kenneled at night while she's gone, or why she can't baby-proof her room and shut them in there at night.
Isn't this nice? We're in agreement with you. :) No need to feel guilty. ;)
:)
i like it when people are in agreement with me. :)
:D
I AM a dog person (well, an all-animal person really) and I would never ask someone to do something that silly. Her roommate is around during the day...dogs sleep at night. What does she expect the dogs to do? It is ridiculous that she can't kennel them up at night while she's gone since they SLEEP at night. Dogs aren't nocturnal. Good for you for saying no. They don't need someone there 24 hours a day.
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