Things I'm afraid of:
(If you're my guy friend reading this blog, please stop here. I'm almost positive you don't have this address anymore, but just in case, out of respect for a girl's online journal, please let this one go.)
1) That the times when I miss SDBGF so much it hurts will continue if I ever get married. It doesn't really seem fair to my husband.
2) That I'll miss out on someone wonderful because I'm not attracted to him right away. With the last two (okay, the only two) guys I've been set up with, there was no spark. And all I could think with the first one, and somewhat with the second one was, 'If I'm going to be with someone I'm not attracted to, it's going to be the friend I grew up with.' Seriously, he's absolutely perfect for me, and has liked me since we were kids, but no matter how hard I try, I'm just not attracted to him. He's like the Laurie to my Jo (without the nasty Winona Ryder/Christian Bale kiss).
1) That the times when I miss SDBGF so much it hurts will continue if I ever get married. It doesn't really seem fair to my husband.
2) That I'll miss out on someone wonderful because I'm not attracted to him right away. With the last two (okay, the only two) guys I've been set up with, there was no spark. And all I could think with the first one, and somewhat with the second one was, 'If I'm going to be with someone I'm not attracted to, it's going to be the friend I grew up with.' Seriously, he's absolutely perfect for me, and has liked me since we were kids, but no matter how hard I try, I'm just not attracted to him. He's like the Laurie to my Jo (without the nasty Winona Ryder/Christian Bale kiss).
posted by melilotnfosco | 6:49 PM
8 Comments:
Hmm, I got nothin'. Maybe the married girls can help with this one.
I don't remember the Ryder/Bale kiss...I'll have to re-watch that one.
As for #1 ... when you do get married, you will do it because you love the man you marry. Yes, you will probably think of your lost love every once in a while, but it won't be as meaningful when you have the gift of your husband.
As for #2 ... God won't let you "miss out" on someone. You should continue to be friends with guys and continue to pray that God will bring the right man into your life in His perfect timing and someday this will all match up.
Story time!
My best girlfriend got married last summer to a guy she didn't find attractive in the least when she first met him. They were in a Bible study together for almost three years before she started to find him attractive. All that while he was very much attracted to her and she didn't know it. He continuously prayed and asked God for His Will and kept receiving a "no...wait" for THREE YEARS. Finally God changed her heart and she began to be interested in him so that when he finally felt God saying "OK...now" she was ready. (And she definitely finds him attractive now :-D).
So, all that to say, you might not be attracted to your future husband right away, but I don't think you will "miss out" God knows what He is doing.
ditto what honormommy said. you know my story. sometimes it happens that way - where the right guy has been there all along and all of a sudden you just go "hey, wait a second - where did that come from?!"
but it doesn't always happen that way, so don't force it (unless, of course, it's a marriage of convenience, because any girl who's ever read a book or watched a movie about a marriage of convenience knows that they'll fall in love.
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hehe, i just like that HM said "Story time!" sounds so like her :) i can just imagine the :D to go with it :)
as for #1 - he's not a lost love, so much as a lost guy best friend. i'm not sure which is harder.
as for #2 - i think that's one of the reasons for the fear - i'm not even making guy friends, let alone giving them a romantic chance
oh, and hm, how do you not remember the kiss? there's slobber everywhere!
That's probably why I don't remember it! :-P
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