not seeing it
a friend from church, jeanie, has someone she wants to set me up with. i said okay, and she talked to him and he said okay, too. the nice thing is that this is going to happen in a non-threatening way - a game night with a few other people (who won't know what's going on cuz that would be awkward). with my weekends being what they are and Christmas coming up, it won't happen til january, but that's fine.
my problem is that i can't see what on earth she could have told him about me that would make him agree to meet me. what on earth could she say about me that would be appealing? 'she's a cynical, perpetually negative, opinionated, anal hermit?' 'she has pretty eyes, but other than that she's just a girl with bad skin, thinning hair, freakishly skinny wrists, no boobs, and uneven collar bones?' 'she's 30, works in her high school job, lives with her parents, and has no ambition or ministry to speak of?' 'she hates animals and doesn't want children?' i mean maybe if you get to know me you can see that i have a sense of humor, but i wouldn't call me funny. if you like nerdiness, i'm all for lotr, hp, and the big bang theory, but with my dislike of star wars, star trek, and comic books, i wouldn't describe me as a nerd per se, and i'm not athletic or artsy. yes, if you get to know me, you can see that i have interests, but i have no interests worth mentioning to a stranger.
i honestly can't see what she could've said to make him interested. it's depressing.
my problem is that i can't see what on earth she could have told him about me that would make him agree to meet me. what on earth could she say about me that would be appealing? 'she's a cynical, perpetually negative, opinionated, anal hermit?' 'she has pretty eyes, but other than that she's just a girl with bad skin, thinning hair, freakishly skinny wrists, no boobs, and uneven collar bones?' 'she's 30, works in her high school job, lives with her parents, and has no ambition or ministry to speak of?' 'she hates animals and doesn't want children?' i mean maybe if you get to know me you can see that i have a sense of humor, but i wouldn't call me funny. if you like nerdiness, i'm all for lotr, hp, and the big bang theory, but with my dislike of star wars, star trek, and comic books, i wouldn't describe me as a nerd per se, and i'm not athletic or artsy. yes, if you get to know me, you can see that i have interests, but i have no interests worth mentioning to a stranger.
i honestly can't see what she could've said to make him interested. it's depressing.
posted by melilotnfosco | 6:44 PM
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she's fun yet she can be deep. she's cute and wears nice shoes. she's nerdy, but she embraces it so it's part of her charm. she's smart and has a lot of common sense, which is seriously lacking in people today. and her sister is so cool!
and she's super loyal and really makes an effort to love and encourage her friends, she's really funny and has the most ammusing immagination. She looks like a model- tall and thin but not too thin. And most importantly, she loves God and actively works to better her relationship with Him.
and her canadian friend is so cool!
Well that goes without saying! :D
Ditto to hobbitsister and Kimberly. I would also add, witty, talented writer, and well-rounded to the list...I would add more, but my head is fuzzy...
And I'm curious what she said about him that made YOU agree to it...
and your honormommy friend is so cool!
ooh yes, i want to know too what she said about him...
and i think sometimes it's hard to define what makes people appealing/attractive/etc. but i like you. :) (i know, i'm not a guy. but i still think i have pretty good taste.:)
and what about all the guy friends from college that are mentioned in your next post? surely they saw something in you. in fact, i think it's kinda cool that you're nerdy (er, sort of nerdy, i guess) & don't care about being like "everyone else." i was gonna say it makes you humble, but then i just remembered your sheldon-like 'genius' comments about yourself... but non-humble people can be likable too. ;)
hope you feel better soon, i'll pray! >:D<
is this jeanie someone you introduced to me before, the really tiny one?
and your iowa friend is so cool!
you girls are too nice. thank you all. and hobsis is right, you're all so cool. :)
chelley - yes jeanie is the really tiny one.
hm - basically she just said he's a great guy she's known forever, and she'd totally like him but she's known him for too long and just can't see him that way. i'm a little leary of the fact that she said he likes photography and the like. i stalked him on fb and he looks artsy. but, it's not nice of me to judge ahead of time. i'm just a little scared that he might be the type to prefer foreign films to football. *shudder*
but you know what was kind of refreshing? when i whined all this to the cook (about there being no way to describe me to make me appealing) he agreed. granted it might not sound nice, but he was laughing and he actually validated my feelings, which, strangely, was kind of nice.
Hey! I'm a photographer and you're friends with me!
Granted, I wasn't a photographer when you met me! Phew! Imagine if I had asked you if you wanted to go for a walk and told you I might become a photographer 10 years from then, and then you would have said no, and that would have been sad! ;)
and I even liked foreign films then! Granted almost all our films are foreign!
you're a girl, that's different
you never know, you could change your mind about some of those things after you meet someone. i used to hate politics and am now a part of it, and i used to roll my eyes at people who take their own dressing to restaurants, but now i do it. you just never know what's going to happen. maybe you'll appreciate him liking those foreign films. and on a related note, sally's husband doesn't like football but likes documentaries (not quite foreign films but still), and he doesn't seem "artsy" at all to me. (but maybe he does to you, i dunno;)
i don't know. i just want a man who's 100% man. not a softy (unless it's under a casey-like exterior), and not someone who feels more than he thinks. kind of like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cg87E1tjTOE
hmm, well, you could argue someone who likes sports more than foreign films could feel more than he thinks. you'll just have to meet him and find out. :)
that boy is so cute :) i'm glad he needs his glasses :)
someone who likes sports more than foreign films does not feel more than he thinks. he might not be using his brains whilst watching sports, but he's not touchy-feely, which is very important.
and yeah, the needs his glasses guy is cute. :)
i like how this has totally strayed off topic. reminds me of the old days of our blogs.
it also has twenty(-one) comments :)
and feelings can be bad too; maybe they use their aggressive feelings more than their brains, just saying, you could argue that they're not necessarily the thinkers of those 2 groups
yeah, it depends on the definitions of feeling and thinking. when i think of indie films (cuz you can't call them movies, you know), i think of someone who is emotional, and i don't want that.
i just want someone i click with, not sure exactly what that means though :) but that's my point, and that's why i said facebook is the devil... so is eharmony in my mind... i feel like i can't know from "paper;" i just have to meet a guy & see
well, yeah
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