a thought
i took a facebook quiz awhile ago, and one of the questions asked if i would rather be loved or understood. i thought about it for a bit, and decided that actually, it was an easy choice. i would rather be understood.
posted by melilotnfosco | 12:28 AM
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Either one would be great! ;)
Actually, I've been thinking about this for a couple of days now! (off & on) It is kind of a hard question. I guess I think being understood is harder to come by, so I'd pick that one, but not at the expense of the other. If I were understood but not loved at all, I think that would be a worse situation. Does that make sense? So I dunno... I guess I just want to have my cake and eat it too. :) Stupid quizzes that make me think too much. ;)
being understood can lead to being respected which can lead to being liked which can lead to being loved. being loved would just make the person overlook the fact that s/he doesn't understand me.
See, I thought about that too, but the opposite way -- I figured that if someone loved me they would also understand me (or come to), but obviously that's not always true. But if someone understood me but still didn't love me, that'd be pretty sad, I think. So I thought if I HAD to take one without the other, it might be love, simply because being without love completely would be the worst, I thought. What most frustrates me usually is being misunderstood, but that could be because I'm already loved (I know that I take that for granted though!). If I weren't loved at all, that would be really awful. And see, you're still trying to get both by saying 'understood,' so we both want our cake and to eat it too. ;) Thankfully we do have both in God. :D
ok, well, even if being understood didn't lead to being loved, i think if i had to choose one, i'd still choose understood
I would definitely go with loved, because understanding is such a shifting thing. It's never going to happen. Not totally at least. I don't even understand myself all the time, so how can I expect anyone else to? It's so much more of a moment by moment sort of thing, while love can be all encompassing.
For example, I love my kids and will always love them even if I don't like them very much- but understanding them? Now that's a tall order, especially since Katie can't even talk properly!
Speaking of which, I've been meaning to ask the two of you- how do you get a lazy preschooler to work on her enunciation? She just doesn't move her mouth! She seems to have decided that she would rather be loveLY (smile all the time) than be understood!
this is hypothetical - understanding can happen at all times in hypotheticalland
this is hypothetical - understanding can happen all the time in hypotheticalland
and i have no idea what to tell you for katie. there's a reason i dropped out of school! :)
How old is she again? I'm thinking it might just be something you have to put up with for now. ;) Or model/emphasize sounds and have her look at your mouth and repeat it, but good luck! :) Especially if she's more concerned with looking cute. ;) Maybe you could take advantage of that somehow? Like playing tea party or something and using your best articulation and intonation when you speak "proper"? I dunno, that was just a thought I just had. :) Maybe she could speak prim and properly to her "prince." ;) (You did say she's in love with the new Swedish prince, right?:)
hypotheticalland sounds like a very interesting theme park... ;) (ok, theme parks still on the brain apparently!;)
i do think the two can't really be mutually inclusive. i'm not sure what i'd pick, because both are so important.
Hmmm...I think I would pick loved for chelley's reasoning and also because sometimes I don't even understand myself! :-D
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