to all you other single ladies out there (don't bother commenting if you're married)
we're not alone. there are plenty of us out there, trying to figure out why we're still single, trying to be satisfied in GOD alone, and trying to not get discouraged when we look around at all our married (some with children) friends. it's annoying that the world (especially the Christian world) expects everyone to be with someone. we get it slammed in our faces so often that while we could ignore it and go on with our lives, we can't because we're constantly reminded of it. we're all dealing with this. don't think it's just you.
GOD has wonderful things planned for us. great things for us to do now, great things for our future. ooh - i just thought of a song i should post. and hey, I cor. 7 says that it's better to be single - we can concentrate on GOD alone. i need to remind myself of that (and actually do it). GOD is good, girls! nothing else matters.
posted by melilotnfosco | 11:02 PM
9 Comments:
preach it, sister! :D (love you:)
(love you, btw :) )
Maybe it IS better to be single so you can focus on God more, but that's hard to do if you're constantly pressured/reminded by the world (and church) around you (like you said:). I end up not focusing on God more but focusing on my singleness more! (which I might not do as much if the people around me weren't always talking about it -- I'd still feel left out, of course, but not as much so, I don't think)
Anyway, disclaimer: NOT blaming anyone specific -- I know I'd probably do the same if I weren't going through it! And in some ways, I think it's good that I'm experiencing this... like your mom says that if you see something that needs to be done, it's your job to do it -- well, I see some changes that need to be made, so I guess I need to be thinking about how I can be involved in changing them... (not sure how, of course, but it's got me thinking at least!;)
Oh, and it's good to talk about it with others, so we know we're not alone, since the Devil wants us to think we are -- just like Luna told Harry kind of, hehe :)
But mel, should you let married people comment if they want? -- I mean, we don't want to "single" them out or we're doing what we feel like is being done to us, aren't we? :) (plus also, I just always think, the more comments, the merrier;) I just wish it didn't matter either way. We're children of God -- isn't that more important than whether we're married or single or divorced or in our 20s or 30s or have kids or not? We're all trying to follow Him and share His love and resist sin/temptation, and I think we can all learn from each other and our differences/experiences. (but I'll be the first to admit I tend to hang out with people a lot like me -- but we can learn more when we don't ONLY hang out with people like us!:) Wow, I'm really rambling now and getting so off-track. Sorry about that. This topic triggers all sorts of thoughts in my head, so yeah, there you go. :)
those are all really good thoughts - very true.(but no, i'm still not going to let married people comment - they'll say things like 'i remember what it was like,' or 'i'm sorry it's like that,' or 'i'll try not to remind you of your singleness.' so yeah - no.)
i like the way you put all of those thoughts. you weren't rambling - you were speaking from the heart, which i like to hear (or read :) ).
k :)
and of course it triggers the small group problems I've been having, so you got all that too ;) (thanks for letting me ramble:)
another thought (hehe:): having everyone expect it takes some of the romance out of it, I think -- instead of a surprise/gift/whatever, it's more like an expectation or obligation or something! And then there's that whole "it happens when you least expect it" thing... but what if you're always expecting it?? Anyway, just rambling again... :)
:)
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